Transgender Goals: From the Ashes Rises the Butterfly!

Last January seems like it was 5 years ago… It was a long, challenging year.

Going into 2015, I was already worn out (mentally and physically) from working an average of 80 hours per week (and the horrendous working environment at Job #2)… then, several unexpected and traumatic issues arose. I am a very strong person by nature, but the overwhelming stress of all the negative events seemed insurmountable at times.

As one of my goals was to be a “Ray of Sunshine”, I opted to NOT discuss my pain or the stress of these issues with friends or family because I didn’t want to bring anyone down. I was on my own to handle the pain… and find some way to resolve each issue before my life spiraled out of control.

With my only diversion being my steadfast focus on my current and future goals, I rose to handle and resolve each challenge. Although the year was hard to endure, believe it or not, I’m glad I went through it. It allowed me to have the courage to walk away from many aspects of my life that were poisonous to whom I am and who I want to be. It also pushed me to accomplish (for the most part) all of the goals that I had set for myself 12 months ago.

Moving forward, I’m more optimistic about the upcoming year than ever before. You know the saying: “From the ashes rises the Phoenix?” I’ve been here before… life changing years where I arise from the ashes, filled with a fire to rebuild my life for the better. Throughout the past year, however, my “Type A”, workaholic personality was forced to become a “Type B” (long story... is there a Type B?) and I think it will be a welcome change if I don’t stress myself out over every little thing! So this time, “From the ashes rises the butterfly!”(Albeit, the strongest, most determined butterfly you've ever met)

My 2016 goals are simple:

1. Actually, that’s the first goal! Simplify! I need to stop stressing myself out by trying to be everything to everyone. I need to do what needs to be done but also realize when to take some time to relax and enjoy my life.
2. Keep pushing to become who I really want to be. (This is really my first goal… but the Simplify! thing was a good tie-in to the previous line)
3. Phase out / don’t work -- at or for -- any company who discriminates in policies, raises and/or promotions to those in the LBGT community. I will seek LBGT friendly companies to do my internet marketing and website design for (my first job) and will only seek transgender friendly employers for additional -- or full time -- income if needed.

I wish you all a successful 2016 and the strength to pursue what truly makes you happy.

Be You… Be Happy…
Dee