Transgender-Friendly Employers - Any leads?

One day -- a long time ago --  a cute redheaded co-worker came into work wearing an outfit just like this.
I was SO JEALOUS that she could wear something so soft, silky and pretty to work!
I spent years trying to find that skirt... and recently found it!
Now I just have to find a transgender-friendly employer that will allow me this outfit into work!
Not an easy feat in New England!

Seriously though... Please email me if you have any job leads to trans-friendly employers (hopefully in my area, but I will consider re-locating for a worthwhile opportunity).
The majority of my work experience is in web design, internet marketing, graphic arts, IT and project management... but considering that my IQ is considered VERY high (higher than Einstein's), I have the innate ability to excel in any job or position and the innate ability to resolve the most complex of corporate challenges.

Side note: If your company is NOT hiring, but IS in need of a webdesign and internet marketing specialist to increase your customer base and sales, please feel free to email me as well... (but PLEASE... serious inquires only).

Thanks in advance,
Dee

Transgender Family and Work Issues

It’s been 10 days since I received my lovely, thoughtful, Christmas present from job # 2... my Layoff Notice. Today, at the same job (a nursing home), most of the dementia and Alzheimer’s patients were more of a challenge than usual… and some were downright mean (it happens on bad weather days)… then I find out that the same job just hired ANOTHER PERSON... from OUTSIDE THE COMPANY -- who was far less qualified than me -- to fill a good position... that I previously applied for. (I was told by a fellow employee that the reason was that I didn't fit the "company image" (read between the lines here). Once again, I bit my tongue until I left work.

This is the SECOND TIME that this happened IN LESS THAN 6 MONTHS! I was REALLY pissed off and needed to vent to someone!

My mom totally ignored the news of my layoff and loss of the promotions as she was more concerned about trying to pry information from me about how my brother is doing… So I went to discuss it with another person, who I thought of as a close family member / friend. He rolled his eyes and quickly changed the subject. He obviously didn’t want to hear about my life falling apart.

I gracefully went through the motions of faking enthusiasm as he rambled on about his fantasy dreams about what he will do when he wins the lottery… as yet another part of my soul was ripped away and died.

I felt SO ALL ALONE… everything is falling apart… and no one cares. This was not self-pity… it was -- and is -- the reality of my life. I’ve always known that I’ve always been -- and always will be -- alone. But considering that I’m always EVERYBODY’S shoulder to cry on… I was hoping that... for once in my life... it was going to be reciprocated... but I was wrong.

As I drove home, I was literally screaming at myself in the car about how stupid I was -- and am -- being. “YOU ALREADY SAID THAT YOU DIDN'T WANT TO WORK FOR A COMPANY THAT WOULD LAY SOMEONE OFF ON CHRISTMAS EVE!”… “YOU KNEW NONE CARES ABOUT WHAT’S GOING ON WITH YOU SO WHY ARE YOU LETTING THIS BOTHER YOU?”

I’m at home now. 

I am -- for now -- over the anger… but I find my eyes overfilled from the tears that I’m now crying. The reality is… if I ever want to become truly happy… I need to walk away from the people that don’t appreciate the good will I’ve extended to them… especially if they refuse to reciprocate, when needed. I’ve known for a long time who -- and what -- I have to cut out of my life… but it still REALLY hurts to let go of the past. 

  

This butterfly has got to fly... far, far away.

Something I wish that I did a long time ago...

Transgender Goals: From the Ashes Rises the Butterfly!

Last January seems like it was 5 years ago… It was a long, challenging year.

Going into 2015, I was already worn out (mentally and physically) from working an average of 80 hours per week (and the horrendous working environment at Job #2)… then, several unexpected and traumatic issues arose. I am a very strong person by nature, but the overwhelming stress of all the negative events seemed insurmountable at times.

As one of my goals was to be a “Ray of Sunshine”, I opted to NOT discuss my pain or the stress of these issues with friends or family because I didn’t want to bring anyone down. I was on my own to handle the pain… and find some way to resolve each issue before my life spiraled out of control.

With my only diversion being my steadfast focus on my current and future goals, I rose to handle and resolve each challenge. Although the year was hard to endure, believe it or not, I’m glad I went through it. It allowed me to have the courage to walk away from many aspects of my life that were poisonous to whom I am and who I want to be. It also pushed me to accomplish (for the most part) all of the goals that I had set for myself 12 months ago.

Moving forward, I’m more optimistic about the upcoming year than ever before. You know the saying: “From the ashes rises the Phoenix?” I’ve been here before… life changing years where I arise from the ashes, filled with a fire to rebuild my life for the better. Throughout the past year, however, my “Type A”, workaholic personality was forced to become a “Type B” (long story... is there a Type B?) and I think it will be a welcome change if I don’t stress myself out over every little thing! So this time, “From the ashes rises the butterfly!”(Albeit, the strongest, most determined butterfly you've ever met)

My 2016 goals are simple:

1. Actually, that’s the first goal! Simplify! I need to stop stressing myself out by trying to be everything to everyone. I need to do what needs to be done but also realize when to take some time to relax and enjoy my life.
2. Keep pushing to become who I really want to be. (This is really my first goal… but the Simplify! thing was a good tie-in to the previous line)
3. Phase out / don’t work -- at or for -- any company who discriminates in policies, raises and/or promotions to those in the LBGT community. I will seek LBGT friendly companies to do my internet marketing and website design for (my first job) and will only seek transgender friendly employers for additional -- or full time -- income if needed.

I wish you all a successful 2016 and the strength to pursue what truly makes you happy.

Be You… Be Happy…
Dee

Plus 1 - Transgender Goals

I recently decided that I'm going to take 1 new and brave action each day -- every day -- toward my goal. I list each one with a "+1" in my daily calendar (to make sure I stay with the program).

The rules: It must be something brave... something that I was afraid to do... and something that I've never done before.

The results: I've become so much braver... much more confident in being myself... and finally don't care (for the most part) about homo-phoebes.

The pictures to the right are from last night. It was really a Plus 6!

I always loved this jacket, but wearing a shiny pink jacket outside is a bit too fem... same with the tight, shiny leggings and sweater boots.

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this outfit! I dreamed for years of wearing this outfit outside the house. I even drew several pictures of me in this outfit -- just chillin' in my yard -- to inspire me to make it a reality... but I was never brave enough to wear it outside.

Last night I wore all 3 outside (+3)... in full view of my homophobic neighbors (+4)... in the early evening (+5) (I'm assuming the homo-phoebes were still awake).

Did they notice? I don't care (+6). I felt SO RELAXED and just sat in my yard, enjoying the crisp Fall evening. MAJOR victory to my goals and my self-esteem!

Does the "Plus 1" work? It's working unbelievably well for me.

Be brave. Be you.

D