Transgender Transition - Work Harassment Continues

I should have gone to a lawyer... but I didn't. I even had a fellow employee (who doesn't even know that I'm transgender) say that I should go to one because I have a MAJOR harassment claim... but foolishly, that's not what I'm about...

For a person that has a high IQ, I'm SO stupid sometimes... I should have taken their advice!

About 3 weeks ago, another employee (who I overheard "Gay mocking me" with other employees) purposely went out of his way again to make my nightly tasks harder on me. When I tried to reason with him (several times, even adding "Can you please" several times into the request), he turned around and HE ACTUALLY HIT ME!

What the fuck???

If I was outside of work, I would have decked him, but as I can't afford to loose my job, I re-approached him and said that's not cool and I could report that to the manager. He turned around, gave me the finger and said, "Fuck you".

My company's policy, as I was previously told by my manager is "Anyone who is involved in a fight, even if it's in self-defense, is fired". As I knew that this would obviously escalate, I did report it to my manager. Not to get anyone fired... just to stop the bullshit before it got worse.

They pulled the video, which backs my report... but today, I got pulled into the office and written-up for "unproductive behavior as witnessed on the video"... WTF you say? Yes I did too.

It was explained to me that I should have let him shit on me without complaining or confronting him and reported it immediately to my manager prior to letting it escalate to the point where he felt he had to hit me. WTF???

I calmly stated the irony about how, if I did it his way instead of  the way I was calmly handling it, I would have wasted a half an hour... and that REALLY would have been unproductive behavior.

He again said that I was wrong for "letting it escalate"... and then went on to say that he didn't understand my previous claim of being harassed either.

So apparently, he doesn't see that being constantly called faggot and constantly being denied the use of machinery that I need to do my job as harassment... and I'm not supposed attempt to reason with any homo-phoebes that harass me, I should report EVERYTHING directly to a manager instead, which will waste multiple work hours (mine, the manager's and the employee that I'm supposed to rat on)... and will only lead (as I found out the hard way) to more harassment and retribution. I guess he's had a pretty sheltered life...

But it's obvious to me (from the wording in the write-up) that they are trying to document "just cause" for terminating me... the one that's being harassed...

In the weeks since the previous incident, I've been researching other "transgender-friendly companies" and employee complaints and I've been finding similar posts.

All I ask is that I can go to work, put in a hard days work, pay my bills, and not be harassed. Is that too much to ask???

I can't remember the last time I actually got a good night's sleep without  waking up an hour after I go to bed, pissed of about something that was done or said to me at work.... Oh yes I can... it was before I started working there...

I should look for another job but seriously... What if it turns out to be even worse than this?

The moral of the story is:  Even though a company may say they are "transgender-friendly" and have strict "non-harassment policies", if the employees and managers are clueless and homo-phoebes, you still run the risk of being put through hell for just showing up for work and trying to put in a good days work.

We need to stand up and speak out. Many of these companies that claim to be "transgender-friendly" think that by seeming "liberal" they will convince prospective employees to accept a job offer for far below market rate. A few even may do it for the right reasons but don't have any localized complaints process. Whatever the case may be, do you research and research complaints as well.

If you are already working for a company that prefers to ignore harassment and punishes the harassed, thus making your life a living hell, let the corporate offices know that what they printed on paper is NOT what is being followed.

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