Coming Out as Transgender - Good Advice for Some

I recently read a post from another transgender who was giving advice on how she came out to her family, friends and co-workers.

She stated that she did not just suddenly tell everyone. Instead, she decided to SLOWLY feminize her appearance and demeanor. This allowed her to gain her self-confidence and increasingly be herself around them... while also allowing them time to adapt to the changes. By the time she did have “the talk” with all of them, they were much more accepting then she ever thought they would be.

I’ve decided to also take this route and have been doing a bit more tweezing lately… a bit more of the hair removal… and wearing outfits that are a bit more feminine.

Little by little I’m transforming before their eyes, but it’s so subtle that they are not shocked by each new change and I haven’t gotten any dirty looks and/or comments either.

Knowing my current circle, I will probably get some negative comments at some point... but by then, my confidence in "being womanly" will be high enough that it won't bother me as much.

 

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The Bright Side of Darkness

I used to dread this time of the year… The days are dreary, the weather is WAY too cold, and it’s dark before I get out of work… but now I now actually look forward to late autumn.

When I got home from work tonight, I changed into a very cute and very feminine outfit (which also included high heeled boots). Soon after, I took my dog out for a long walk. As we walked along the dark, empty streets, I felt so relaxed… and so free… Not once thinking, “What will the neighbors say”? I was just a very self-confident lady walking her dog.

Although I felt very pretty in the outfit, that’s not what made me feel so happy and free. I’ve been wearing female clothing 24/7 for years now, but I usually don’t wear anything in public that’s OVERLY feminine. Tonight though, instead of changing back into less feminine clothing, I kept the cute outfit on and allowed myself to be myself… without ANY paranoia or worries. I guess the fact that it was a very dark night had a lot to do with that.

I’m taking steps to get to the point where I can go out any time of the year without feeling self-conscious… but until then, I’ll gladly welcome how light-hearted the New England darkness can make me feel.